April-May-June 2010 Newsletter

Mother of Three Creates Fund For Positive Discipline

Positive Disclipline
The Positive Discline Endowment has helped fund, Parenting with Love, a booklet which educates parents to discipline with love

When Vinaya Alahan joined Gurudeva on pilgrimage in the Caribbean in 2001, she asked for his blessings to start a fund at the Hindu Heritage Endowment supporting the distribution of educational materials produced by Positive Discipline, a kind-but-firm approach to child-rearing that he hoped would give Hindu parents a practical alternative to both physical punishment and indulgent permissiveness.

"He had heard through his website about the harsh physical treatment some children received at home," the mother-of-three said. He started searching for a way of raising children consistent with the Hindu commitment to nonviolence." His child-rearing concerns surfaced publicly in the July 1998 issue of Hinduism Today which carried the feature story Sparing the Child, Should Corporal Punishment End?" by Julie Rajan. About the same time, Gurudeva discovered the writings of Jane Nelson, PhD, author of the Positive Discipline books and educational tapes. The more Alahan, a resident of Des Moines, Iowa, learned about Positive Discipline, the more she wished she had known about it during hard-scrabble times when she was raising her three boys as a single parent.

"I tried to raise my kids as positively as possible," she said. But I feel Positive Discipline goes a step beyond the tools I had." To make sure other parents have those tools, she has created the Positive Discipline Fund at the Hindu Heritage Endowment to make Nelson's materials easily available. Positive Discipline offers parents general guidance and specific step-by-step instructions that avoid violence of any kind without surrendering to the demands of tantrum-throwing kids. Positive Discipline is not just tradition based," she explained. It uses reason and sound psychology." And, she adds, it works far better than the short-term behavior control and emotional release a parent gets from smacking a kid's bottom or meekly capitulating to a child's clamorous wishes. Gurudeva introduced me to Jane Nelson's writings," she said. They seemed very organized, and very consistent with his philosophy and with Hindu spirituality of the best sort."

The January/February/March 2009 issue of Hinduism Today summarized the philosophy and techniques of Positive Discipline. At its core is the ability to connect emotionally with children, treat them with respect, listen to them, provide them with social skills, work with them on solutions to problems, and increase their capabilities. Many Hindu parents, especially those who remember the response to their own childhood misdeeds as swift and painful, may find it odd to engage a five-year-old who demands dessert before dinner in an exploration of his feelings. But the outcome is long-term and worth the effort, according to Dr. Nelson.

Though the approach is gentle, the message remains fair, clear and firm. Children need to learn that they can't always have what they want," Nelson writes. What do they learn from this? That they are capable, that they can be resilient, that they can survive delayed gratification." Vinaya Alahan discovered Hinduism in much the same way she learned about Positive Discipline, through her interest in finding a better way. Raised in Clarksville , Iowa, she was curious about other religions while a teenager. Her town library had nothing on Hinduism, and it wasn't until she was in her twenties that she learned about Gurudeva through a Yoga teacher in Minneapolis in 1974. Of her creating the Positive Discipline Fund (fund #32) at HHE, she says. It's a small thing I'm able to do. I see it as enlightened self interest. Everyone gets better if the world gets better.

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October to December 2009 Endowment Contributions

Kauai Aadheenam Monastic Endowment
Anonymous $US101.00
Diksha Katir 85.31
Vijay - Daksha - Neil Mithal 2.50
Philip J. Murphy 200.00
K. Lakshmi Kantha Reddy 3,001.00
Puvaneswary Roberts 108.00
Darma & Shivali Satgunasingam 75.00
Niraj Thaker 25.50
Michael Zimmermann 7.50
Other Donations 45,200.00
Total 48,772.37
Iraivan Temple Endowment
Roger & Rosemary Brown 160.00
Subhash Kumar Choudhary 250.00
Shyamadeva Dandapani 54.00
Pavan K. Davuluri 1,116.00
Shikha Deveshwar 5.00
Rajendra Giri 612.00
Latha Kannan 153.00
Diksha Katir 242.46
Trond Liland 108.00
Hem Louis 12.50
Surendra & Patsy Rajpal 250.50
Malayappan Shridhar 25.00
Govinda & Indira Srikantiah 200.00
Niraj Thaker 25.50
Anonymous 1,008.00
Anonymous 42.00
Subbarao & Anuradha Uppaluri 50.00
Alpa Patel and Sriram Vishwanathan 51.00
Other Donations 173,500.00
Total 177,881.52
Kauai Aadheenam Annual Archana Fund
Hemakheshaa Naatha Batumallah 8.00
Mekaladeva Batumallah 8.00
Gunavadee Caremben 13.36
Somasundaram Caremben 7.98
Sukanta Caremben 13.15
Sharath Chigurupati 369.00
Tarakini Gunasegaran 8.66
Tirunyanam Gunasegaran 26.00
Juhivaasana Koothan 10.45
Saravan Koothan 17.43
Vanore Lawrence 256.00
Natraj Narayanswami 13.33
Bijamati Pareatumbee 57.16
Padmini Pareatumbee 57.16
Subramaniam Pennathur 49.98
Thivya Uma Perakasam 14.03
Kirtideva Peruman 21.01
Puvaneswary Roberts 50.00
Egambrum Sinsamy 107.73
Devaladevi Sivaceyon 22.76
Patudeva Sivaceyon 22.76
Hemavalli Sivalingam 2.65
Potriyan Sivanathan 2.85
Javanya Skanda 17.56
Anonymous 214.00
Total 1,407.57
Hinduism Today Lifetime Subscription Fund
Maria S. Dara 240.00
Sudipta Devanath 800.00
Prabin Gautam 240.00
Rajendra Giri 108.00
Diksha Katir 17.96
Sevanti Kumaran 108.00
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Vijay - Daksha - Neil Mithal 10.00
Chinna Natesan 800.00
Manisha Nemani 800.00
Niroshnee Peruman 26.26
Surendra & Patsy Rajpal 250.50
Elamurugu Porselvi Ramachandran 80.00
K. Lakshmi Kantha Reddy 1,001.00
Amooda Sagum 127.87
Anupkumar Shetty 240.00
Nutanaya Sivaceyon 28.40
Potriyan Sivanathan 7.07
Uma Sivanathan 362.00
Girish Skanda 175.70
Siven Veerasamy 32.32
Sharad Wagle 320.00
Total 5,796.64
Hindu Businessmenís Association Trust
Paramaseeven Canagasaby 14.36
Vel Mahalingum 21.26
Manogaran Mardemootoo 53.14
Vishwanaden Moorooven 21.55
Total 110.31
Boys School for Iraivan Priesthood
Nalini Ganapati Kodpadi 48.00
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Bala Sivaceyon 55.36
Total 124.92
Kauai Aadheenam Matavasi Medical Fund
Shyamadeva Dandapani 63.00
Gowri Nadason 208.27
Pathmini Saravanapavan 50.00
Vayudeva Varadan 54.00
Chandrasekhar Venkatakrishnan 100.20
Other Donations 4,800.00
Total 5,292.03
Tirunavukkarasu Nayanar Gurukulam
M. & Thaiya Krishnamurthy 25.00
Trond Liland 30.00
Aran Sendan 250.00
Total 321.56
Kauai Aadheenam Renovation Endowment
Diksha Katir 44.90
Sri Subramuniya Ashram Scholarship Fund
Maruthu Pandian Darmalingam 20.00
Sri Subramuniya Kottam Fund
Anonymous 50.00
Maruthu Pandian Darmalingam 20.00
Puvaneswary Roberts 50.00
Aran Sendan 250.00
Total 386.56
Malaysian Hindu Youth Education Trust
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Kumbhalavalai Ganesha Temple Endowment
Anonymous 50.00
Hem Louis 12.50
Manoharan Navaratnarajah 75.00
Aran Sendan 500.00
Total 654.06
Sri Siva Subramaniya Swami Devasthanam Trust
Hem Louis 12.50
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Total 34.06
Malaysia Hindu Renaissance Fund
Anonymous 1,402.68
Hinduism Today Production Fund
Subhash Kumar Choudhary 100.00
For Deposits 201.00
Hiranya Gowda 93.00
Raj & Deepa Maturi 1,000.00
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Subramaniam Pennathur 50.01
Anonymous 1,008.00
Kannan Srikanth 1,000.00
Anonymous 500.00
Raghu Ram Vollala 50.00
Total 4,023.57
Hindu Orphanage Endowment Fund
Subhash Kumar Choudhary 50.00
Pankaj N. Lalji 500.00
Vijay - Daksha - Neil Mithal 2.50
Natraj Narayanswami 39.33
Yogesh Patel 200.00
Suselah Periasamy 672.80
Seetharamarao & Rukmini Poruri 100.00
Puvaneswary Roberts 84.00
Alex Ruberto 75.00
Rodney & Ilene Standen 30.00
Chandrasekhar Venkatakrishnan 100.20
Total 1,870.39
Hindu Education Endowment
Sitara Alahan 110.00
Suntheram Family Trust Fund
Ramachandran Suntheram 1,000.00
Hindu Press International Endowment Fund
Subhash Kumar Choudhary 50.00
Hiranya Gowda 63.00
Total 129.55
Loving Ganesha Distribution Fund
Shyamli Arora Burman 30.00
Diksha Katir 17.96
Manoharan Navaratnarajah 75.00
Gassa Patten 1,350.00
Anonymous 214.00
Total 1,703.51
Saiva Agamas Trust
Vinaya Alahan 25.00
Ganga Sivanathan 210.00
Total 251.55
Positive Discipline Endowment
Vinaya Alahan 50.00
Tirumular Sannidhi Preservation Fund
Shyamadeva Dandapani 63.00
Alaveddy Pasupatheeswarar Temple Fund
Anonymous 50.00
Puvaneswary Roberts 50.00
Total 116.55
HHE Administrative Fund
Sunanda N. Gokhale 50.00
Kauai Aadheenam Religious Art and Artifacts Fund
Rajadeva Alahan 153.00
A. Saravanapavan Family Murugan Temple Pillaiyar Shrine Fund
Pathmini Saravanapavan 108.00
Thank You Bodhinatha Fund
Hotranatha Ajaya 33.00
Vinaya Alahan 108.00
Anonymous 3,375.00
Anonymous 105.00
Shyamadeva Dandapani 54.00
Amarnath & Latha Devarmanai 324.00
Shikha Deveshwar 5.00
Anonymous 101.00
David Dillard-Wright 40.00
Anonymous 108.00
Alejandro Jaramillo 250.00
Rosa (Gunamaya) Jaramillo 50.00
Diksha Katir 85.31
Nalini Ganapati Kodpadi 67.00
Rathinappillai Logeswaran 100.00
Manoharan Navaratnarajah 150.00
Shanta Devi Periasamy 662.90
Brett Phillips 35.00
Anonymous 103.00
Anonymous 151.00
Puvaneswary Roberts 50.00
Alex Ruberto 45.00
Aran Sambandar 33.00
Nanthakumar Satgunasingam 108.00
Thanaletchmi Umamaheswaran 76.73
Vayudeva Varadan 63.00
Total 6,299.49
Udayan Care Endowment Fund
Savithri Sundaresan 108.00
Saivite Hindu Scriptural Fund for the Visually Impaired
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Alex Ruberto 60.00
Chandrasekhar Venkatakrishnan 100.20
Total 181.75
Sri Chandra Madhab Debnath Endowment
Subhash Kumar Choudhary 100.00
Shyamal Chandra Debnath 150.00
Total 266.55
Murugan Temple Yalpanam Festival Fund
Pathmini Saravanapavan 432.00
Manitha Neyam Trust Fund
Bala Sivaceyon 68.34
Kerala Temple Trust
Vidya Anderson 10.50
Kapaleeshwara Temple Orphanage
Hem Louis 12.50
Yogesh Patel 200.00
Chiranjevi Raparla 15.00
Savithri Sundaresan 108.00
Michael Zimmermann 7.50
Total 359.55
Manjung Hindu Sabha Orphanage Fund
Yogesh Patel 200.00
Pazhassi Balamandiram Orphanage Fund
Vidya Anderson 10.50
Chiranjevi Raparla 50.00
Savithri Sundaresan 108.00
Total 185.05
Sri Ganesha Hindu Temple of Utah Endowment Fund
Sri Ganesha Temple of Utah Devotees1,000.00
Swami Vipulananta Childrenís Home Endowment
Anonymous 50.00
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Total 71.55
Hindu Literature Fund
Nigel Subramaniam Siva 400.00
Hinduism Today Complimentary Subscription Fund
Subhash Kumar Choudhary 50.00
Hiranya Gowda 153.00
Rajagopal Krishnan 60.00
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Anonymous 15.00
Michael Zimmermann 15.00
Total 314.55
Himalayan Academy Book Distribution Fund
Shyamadeva Dandapani 63.00
Laxmi Peri 250.00
Chandrasekhar Venkatakrishnan 100.20
Total 429.75
Yogaswami Hindu Girlsí Home of Sittandy Endowment
Vinaya Alahan 50.00
Jeri Arin 400.00
Marlene Carter 162.00
Anonymous 151.20
Seeven & Lutcheemee Curpen 300.00
Maruthu Pandian Darmalingam 20.00
James H. Daugherty 23.10
Tina Desai 300.00
Julia Hall 54.00
Diksha Katir 22.45
Anupama Krishnan 30.00
Appasamy Kuppusamy 28.43
Rajkumar Manickam 40.00
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Natraj Narayanswami 39.34
Yogesh Patel 200.00
Subramaniam Pennathur 50.01
Ananthakumar Renganathan 200.00
Ganga Sivanathan 180.00
Anonymous 45.00
Soma Sundaram 6.00
Total 2,755.34
Yogaswami Hindu Boysí Home Fund
Vinaya Alahan 50.00
Kugendra Canaganayagam 60.00
Maruthu Pandian Darmalingam 20.00
Diksha Katir 22.45
Anupama Krishnan 100.00
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Kanthasamy Selvakumar 120.00
Dharmalingam Siddhan 25.00
Total 419.00
India Hindu Tribals Endowment
Devdatta & Swati Mhaiskar 5.00
Vijay - Daksha - Neil Mithal 2.50
Niraj Thaker 5.00
Total 29.05
Murugan Temple of North America Puja Fund
Ken Kanagalingam 251.00
Nigel Subramaniam Siva 1,000.00
Vayudeva Varadan 54.00
Total 1,263.55
Ramanathaswamy Temple Cleaning Fund
Vinaya Alahan 25.00
Danyse Crotti 100.00
Hiranya Gowda 99.00
Manogaran Mardemootoo 212.60
Anonymous 153.00
Franz Scheurer 100.00
Ganga Sivanathan 300.00
Niraj Thaker 11.00
Anonymous 214.00
Total 1,231.15
Hindu American Foundation Endowment
Niraj Thaker 11.00
The Endowment for Global Hindu Rights
Vijay - Daksha - Neil Mithal 2.50
Cows of Kadavul and Iraivan Temples (Kovil Maadu) Endowment
Nalini Ganapati Kodpadi 26.00
Rajkumar Manickam 40.00
Yogesh Patel 200.00
Chandrasekhar Venkatakrishnan 100.20
Total 332.75
All Multi-Donor Funds (Split)
K.D. & A.D. Williams 1,640.62
Insurance Premiums
Mrunal Patel 3,003.00
Total Contributions $271,969.46
Funds at Market Value, December 31, 2009
Total Endowment Funds $8,270,264.25
Total Pooled Income Funds $199,597.56
Grand Total $8,469,861.81

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